Who the Hell Raised You? | The Conversation Every Woman Has With Herself (and Her Mum)

Have you ever looked at yourself and thought… “I sound just like my mum”?

Or caught yourself repeating her patterns — the good, the bad, and the ones you swore you’d never carry into your own life?

In this unapologetically honest episode of Woman’s Hour, Kelechi Chapfika sits down with Alexis Jackson, founder of Subtletee, for a conversation that every woman needs to hear — about the mothers who raised us, the women we’re becoming, and the balance between honouring them and healing from them.

 They dive deep into:

The truth about mother-daughter relationships — love, tension, and everything in between

Motherhood and identity — how becoming a mum changes how you see your own mother

The hidden emotional weight of being “the strong one”

Why women often lose themselves while trying to be everything for everyone

And what it really means to become your own woman without guilt, comparison, or shame

This one’s for every woman who’s trying to:

 Break generational patterns Balance ambition with motherhood Forgive her mother (and herself) And finally own the woman she’s becoming

 If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Who the hell raised me — and who am I becoming?” … this episode is your mirror.

 Watch until the end — Alexis shares a raw truth about what her mother taught her that every woman will feel deep in her soul.

 About Woman’s Hour

Woman’s Hour is a powerful segment of The Husband & Life Podcast hosted by Kelechi Chapfika — a space for real, unfiltered conversations that explore faith, motherhood, love, and identity.

Every episode is designed to help women heal, grow, and remember who they are beneath the labels.

 Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro: The Woman Who Raised Me

04:17 – The lessons we didn’t understand until motherhood

12:34 – Balancing ambition, motherhood, and identity

21:55 – The emotional labour of strong women

32:40 – Healing, forgiveness, and becoming her

 Join the Conversation:

Comment below — What’s one thing your mother taught you that still shapes you today?

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